You are blessed but your marriage is now under the strain of the "highest pressure" for divorce. By the time a young couple has two kids under the age of two, usually they are ready for divorce or a break up in the coming year. Because babies come first, and you are third (instead of first) and your wife is last. She has no time to do her nails, sleep in or give you what you need. If you truly love your wife and want your family to survive as a unit, understand that the next year will be tough because you won't have a minute to yourselves.
One day though you'll wake up and find your kids PLAYING together, so you and your wife will actually be able to talk to each other and even make dinner together without being interrupted. And I admit, that takes care of other items that may need attending.
Babies, babies everywhere!